Smooth PSA: Since the last post was about love and working things out, it’s only right that this week’s post center on severing ties and releasing things…cuz why talk about making up without also talking about breaking things as well.
It’s difficult to say goodbye.
Even when people are bad for us and bad to us, we can still feel the need to hold on to them. Which is, you know, sad but a fact of humanity nonetheless. It’s not just people. We hold on to places, jobs, and habits that no longer serve us for a variety of reasons.
At times, we’re just lazy. Other times we’re so used to our routine that we don’t even realize we’re spinning our wheels. And, of course, there are times when the other entity has meaning to us and we just don’t want to let it go.
Alas, putting energy and effort into things that no longer prove useful, fulfilling, or even practical to our lives is, in fact, a waste of time. IT JUST IS.
I’ll say it again for the cheap seats: Staying where you are no longer needed and/or no longer want to be is a WASTE OF TIME.
IT JUST IS.
Bae who you had so many good times with 10 years ago but who is actively hindering your growth as a person? Probably time to cut him loose.
That real kewl job you loved so much when you were 21, fresh out of college, that now makes you want to jump in front of a bus at the mere thought of showing up to the building? Might wanna start looking for a new line of employment.
Once you’ve worked out all your hang-ups and have gotten up the courage to break yourself free or let something go all that’s left to be done it to do it. Leave. Cut the tie. Call time of death on that particular chapter and pick up your toys and go home.
You’ll live. You’ll survive. You always have. You always will.
On the other hand, sometimes you’re ready to be rid of something and that thing isn’t ready to be done with you. You then have to tell that something to take all its demons and go. Take your bs, your feels, your soapbox, and your agenda and get on away from here. It may take some time to get up the courage to banish whatever the hell out of your life, but if you feel strongly enough you’ll do it.
Long and short of it, sometimes you just gotta cut things, people, and places out of your life so that both you and them can continue to be great in life. And all I want is for everybody to be great in life. Below are two of my favorite songs about telling people and their demons that their time is up.
‘Demons’ by Sampha
‘Valediction’ by The Foreign Exchange
Carry on in the struggle dear friends,
Bri a.k.a. one of them black yogis b.k.a. the one ‘outchea tryna get these gains
“Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up.”-James Baldwin